Well.... Submissiveness.... I think is either a result of upbringing or its just always been there.(I dunno if its genetical or soemthing like that). I think in less nice cases it could be a result of something bad happening to a person
I can tell you that since I was a little kid, I loved submissive things that now make sense to me. I remember in the playground there'd be a huge tag game of guys after girls... And I got really excited when a guy caught me.
I remember when two guys decided to trap me in a cage-like thing. That made me really excited too. Creepy thing is I wanted them to keep 'tormenting' me.
So I dunno if submissiveness has always been with me, or if something caused it.
Submissiveness and rape-fantasies do often go hand in hand.
I don't know what to tell you other than it's sexy to be taken charge of.
Rape-fantasies like I said before is more of a matter of subjugation. NO sane girl would ever want a 'real' rape. I've never ever heard of girls who enjoyed real rape, not even those with rape-fantasies. And try to imagine being raped, and being traumatized, but still having rape-fantasies. It's bound to make one feel like a freak.
It's just about being in one person's clutches and not being able to say no, thus enjoyed dirty things without feeling they are dirty themselves, since it's being forced upon. But they also want to feel safe of course.
Anyway, thats just my experience. No one -really- wants to be raped. But Im guessing that since it's in one's fantasies, to get the most out of it, the mind 'extremefies' the thoughts
And yea. Many women do have these fantasies. Personally I think it should just be embraced and turned into fun sex-games, rather than feel ashamed over something that cant be changed.
It maybe could be changed in certain situations... I don't know, I've never heard of it.
