so i was always like i can't say "we'll see the movie on tuesday" because then i'd be making decisions for them which isn't cool so i'll just ask them when they want to go because i'm cool like that but now i see that making them think about it is just another job for them so it's actually nicer to say that first thing

Asking someone repeatedly when they'd like to do something is of greater net inconvenice than picking a day to do said thing for them.

woah