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Word up.
Sucks for the people who can't take the time/responsibility to enjoy it.
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Ouch, that's quite an assumption. I don't fault you for it, though. It's very difficult for a person to intrinsically understand the intangible values of another person when they're so strongly opposing. We judge and understand people by projecting ourselves on to them and thus inadvertently assume the unverifiable elements like feelings and faith are the same as our own. The stark difference between sexuality and asexuality causes a lot of confusion, especially since sexuality is the norm (it would have to be, else our species would cease to be), and the natural inability to understand the motivations tends to be rationalized into the assumption that the only cause for difference is that the other is somehow deficient or weak (take the general assumptions about the homeless, for example) and aren't just naturally different.
One can intellectually understand these things. I can certainly understand the want to be sexual from an intellectual point of view, I know that its not a ridiculous act nor a revolting thing to do and I'm not a better person for not being asexual. I'm not a worse person, either, I'm just different. All the same, I can't emotionally understand the motivation as the desire is lacking in me. Try as I might, I cannot feel that want just as one who is sexual cannot not feel that want. Those values are inherent in us. Kind of like faith, either you have it or you don't - and there's no way to explain to the other half what its really like to be what you are. Can one truly understand what its like to have been born deaf and never know the sound and thus cannot 'miss' it? A large number of deaf people are incredibly happy the way they are and cannot imagine life wanting to hear sounds.
The world is as interesting as it is because everyone is different and feels things than other people will never feel. Perhaps it does suck that I won't know how it feels to be fulfilled by sex. However, it sucks for you that you won't know how it feels to have no desire or want for sex and its own fulfillment. But I wouldn't have it any other way, I'm happy being who I am