Not so foward after all

Oh dear :/

You have female friends. Lie.

I can’t. I can’t lie to them. Not about this, anyway. About the train ticket thing, sure. That was easy to lie about. And still I can’t figure out why I did.

I wish I had advice. I really do. I've already chosen an easier way out of this exact type of problem and I haven't the courage to try anything else.

Did you abandon all ties with your family? Because I could totally go for that right about now.

Leave a committal physical clue she's bound to find on purpose.

For instance I kept an empty condom packet and left in it my jeans pockets when I came home and my mother offered to wash them.

The more religious ones, sorta. I talk to them, but I tend to keep it... almost professional. Still, no one in my family knows.

What? I thought you had told your mother?

Alcar...

Never mind, then.

I think he was talking about Max. And I had thought the same thing. Clearly we were both mistaken.

Yes, I was referring to Max.

Alcar...

THE SNOWFLAKES ARE ATTACKING

More seriously, umm...Well I've heard of some religious people disagreeing with it but still keeping contact with said people because they care, I don't know anything helpful though 8S.

No, I have not told anyone in my family. I had convinced myself it was obvious enough and they’d all adapted to it behind the scenes.

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Oh my.... a toughie.

Max I can relate to you in the way you'd hoped it was just 'obvious' to your family because for a long time I hoped for the same thing. Turns out, I was RIGHT, in fact my mom tells me she thought i was starting back in my early teens.

My dad was another matter; I think it started to get obvious when he'd go to work early in the morning and see that same guy's car out front of the house. Finally he walked in on us making out and later I had to go give the 'introduction.' They actually got along great too talking about cars. .

But anyway, sometimes the 'parents asking about a girlfriend' thing is just a way for them to open up the lines of communication because they actually want to hear you admit the obvious, or they are genuinely interested in learning more about *you*. In my experience.... but I don't know if you come from a religious family. I don't, but I've known some "religious" people even who had no problem with gays.

CONFUSING

Sorry for the confusion. Anyway, how do you think your parents might take it? That's obviously a key factor in this.

Edit: What Pilot said.

Neither is religious, and I don’t think either would get angry or disappointed in me. But still, for someone who can’t tell them ‘I’m doing really shit at university’ or ‘I’m not really fond of your new boyfriend, he seems prone to racism’ or ‘I accidentally forgot to print my ticket off before I got on the train, so had to waste money on an expensive one’ it’s a soul-destroying prospect. One that makes me want to run away to South America just to avoid the responsibility.

It was surprisingly easy to ‘come out’ as vegan to them.

For a long time I plotted to come out them in an indirect way: being caught, or asking if I could bring my boyfriend to dinner. But given the number of relationships I’ve been in, that turned out to be a profitless idea; still not impossible, but certainly not for the impatient. But still so tempting in the face of actually using words.

I think Pilot might be on to something. My parents used to ask meaningful questions in the hope of getting me to admit what they already suspected. Maybe take that chance to tell them what you're bursting to say. Also, just blurt it out loudly and enjoy their reaction. Even if they're expecting it, they'll have an amusingly shocked expression.

I told my mother when I was 16 - I'd describe her as mid-way between conservative and semi-conservative Catholic, so she was rather awkward around me. I still don't know how she couldn't have guessed - she knew I'd turned down a few relationships with women, and all the other obvious things I purposely did to get the point across.

My sister and father however, had guessed.

Alcar...