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Ignorant perhaps, but I can only go from what I've seen, and what I've seen is one polygamous relationship which broke down in about two weeks. Don't tell me they weren't close either because two of them had been together for years and years. The moment you let a third person into a relationship, I feel that the chances are someone at some point is going to feel left out or not as loved and from there it's a downward spiral.
Obviously I'm not suggesting polygamy is wrong or that it shouldn't be done. This is the 21st century and to be frank I couldn't give two shits what anyone does so long as it doesn't negatively impact me. If someone wants to have a triple entente then fine, but I couldn't do it myself.
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Ok.. but just how many polygamous relationships have you known firsthand? 1? 2?.... 5?
Lets just be generous and say 5... Thats... maybe 15 people. 15 people out of hundreds.
Consider this. How many people do you know that have stayed with their first partner? How many normal relationships fall apart? And what is the average lifespan of a relationship?
The truth is that there is nothing inherently wrong with Polygamous relationships. Relationships in general just tend to fall apart because it takes a lot of maturity to stay with the same people for years and years on end.
Maybe opening up their relationship to a third destroyed it all... But that was just their way of tackling it. Other people would have tackled it differently. But it is not the polygamy that destroyed the relationship. It was the way the 3 or more members tackled it. Maybe there were factors they weren't ready for or mature enough to handle. But never blame the dynamic. Rather.... the people.
I could also blame my break up on the fact that it was a long distance relationship. And many people would accept that as a perfectly valid explanation. But it's simply not true. A dynamic is just a description. It's the people inside that make it work or fall. Part of making a relationship work is deciding what dynamic works best for them.
And yea I know you don't care if people want polygamy. But I do feel that you have a few wrong impressions of what polygamy is and such.
Edit: and you are right. Many people do feel left out in poly relationships... Because many people lack the necessary skills to make it work. It takes a lot more organization and planning to make it work, and many people just aren't ready for it. But like with anything, its something that you learn over time. Just like with monogamous relationships. I bet the majority of people made huge mistakes in their first few serious relationships that they learned from. I know I did, and it's helped me grow a lot as a person.