Ah, I have a lot of opinions on this subject. But I don't have time to go through them all and I doubt anyone would want to read them all either!
But I think I'd have to agree with Searex and AquaticAmbi on this mostly...
I don't actually agree with "shopping around" at all. I mean, in my opinion, it's better to just concern myself with making friends, both male and female, and getting to know them well, and then
if one of them should turn out to be a match,
that'swhen I would make a move in that direction. The advantages of this are a strong friendship base (and they say the best relationships start out as friendships), I actually
know the person pretty well before I even start a relationship, and I can keep break-ups to a minimum, to name just a few. Of course, even then it could still not work out, so I'm not counting on
never having to break up with anyone, but I can certainly keep the number down.
And another thing with searching out a special someone is, if you're that concerned with finding someone, you might rush it. Meaning you could a) choose someone who isn't
really suitable, or b) rush the relationship itself. And I don't believe love is something that can be rushed.
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I think love is rather over-rated. There are times when I think I could fall in love with someone, but once you sleep with them it sucks the fun out of everything, not to mention making things extremely awkward.
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And I think sex is over-rated, so meh to you!
You're bound to disagree, but I think there's generally a misunderstanding of what love really is. It is definately
not just an emotion, and I have an example to "prove" that.
Emotions are pretty crazy and wild and unpredictable; you can be super happy one minute and down in the dumps the next. And they're never consistent; even someone who suffers from depression isn't sad every moment of every day.
But then we say about "loving someone forever." Well, if love is just an emotion, how the heck can you do it forever? Because emotions sure don't last forever...
And I think this is why so many couples who are supposedly "in love" eventually break up - once the emotions died down, that was the end.
I don't think real love is something that can be explained just like that, but it's not simply an emotion. If anything, it's a choice - the decision to do what's best for the other person, no matter how you feel, no matter what they may have done to hurt you etc. In short, the desire to do what's best for the other person
all the time.
Anyway... I think that's enough ranting from me for today.