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Nice logic bro, shame it's totally useless in these situations.
Of course you could do all that, your offline bullying would probably go up for doing so, but you could definitely do it. Try telling that to a scared and panicing fifteen year old who is being terrorized and hounded by offenders, though. Whilst you're at it, try telling the homeowner pointing a shotgun at a thief that there are a million better ways to deal with the situation.
You are not trying to put yourself in their position, you are not trying to understand them. This is exactly the same kind of MAN UP BRO bullshit that just makes victims of bullying feel worse about themselves.
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No, it wouldn't go up by doing so. Thing is, the people who don't stick up for themselves are the ones that get bullied for longer. The 'panicking' fifteen year olds are the ones that constantly victimise themselves instead of realising the big picture; lie down and take it like a bitch and they'll come back for more.
Your analagy of the homeowner with the shotgun is almost as fundamentally flawed as Havoc's. Are you a pacifist? What would you suggest the 'homeowner' do? Let them leave and call the police later? The police arrive, take details and do sweet FUCK ALL else. And then, guess what? Thief realises robbing that house is piss easy and has zero consequences, and does it again a few weeks later to pick up the shit they left last time. Much like bullying. Do nothing about it, people realise you're a pushover and carry on.
I'm not saying 'SHOOT THE FUCKER!', because, like I said, the analagy is bad. People bully those they have no respect for, and fighting back somehow, whether winning or losing, is going to do better for their respect than bending over constantly.
Why has this kind of bullying only just become a huge problem anyway? I'm sure in generations earlier people learnt to deal with it instead of bitch about it. Is it cushy parents or what? Sheltered lifestyles?
Besides, I don't have to think to put myself in their position, I can remember. You know what's fucking worse than being bullied at school? Being bullied at work, by a manager who hates your guts. You can't do shit about that; you can't argue back, you can't exactly take a swing at them. Tell another manager? Yeah, like they'll do anything about it, they're all chums. Call head office, higher ups? As if they give a shit, I guarantee it's more likely to get you a disciplinary than them. My answer was to tolerate it, phase it out, and get on with my life.
Attempts at bullying outside of work hasn't ever managed to take hold of me because I haven't let it. My girlfriend's been bullied before, when she started college, and I gave her the same advice I'm giving you guys, and now it's no longer a problem; everyone in her class is now on her side, and the ex-bullies are now social outcasts, all because of a little returned aggression.
The 'man up bro' stuff is the stuff that SHOULD work. If people actually listen, and try it instead of just approaching advice as another insult. And if they don't, then they're either arrogant or too sensitive. If it's the latter, it's mostly their problem and they need to fix it before it actually REALLY matters, like in the workplace. Don't deal with it sooner and it'll be worse later.
Sorry, getting a bit aggressive. This topic always makes me so.
P.S. Forgot to say, I'm quite flattered you remember me, T-nex!
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