EDIT: God dammit. I had this whole edit written out and I lost it. Let me try to give you the play by play.
hey wow it ended up longer than my previous post look at that
See, I don't think Nepsotic is wrong. I don't think he's being disingenuous with his perception of women. I think he's been exposed to some really persistent negative perceptions that are hateful enough to be real.
I get your feelings on a lot of this stuff, and I really mean it when I tell you that Feminism doesn't matter in a way that will ever threaten the way you want to live your life unless you beat women or espouse pointless hatred, because the people who actually carry a feminist influence on the political level got there by being smart enough to know the things they're trying to fix aren't just guilted out of people.
As patronizing as it might sound at this point, I like Nepsotic's position. I like that he's very honest about what he thinks. He's got it in him to recognize some important stuff as equal measures of pointless bullshit.
For the same reason that Obama never came out with a speech on his position on Gamergate, no one is going to give any of the self hating dudes who post positively on Missandrist (hehehe) blogs a serious ear, do you see what I mean by that?
The really toxic ones will always pool at the bottom of the 'Net. It's your job as a user to work your way out and see the world as it is: So deplorably pointless that enjoying the pointlessness in your own way gives it meaning. Coming up with a perspective that's based on what other people say about something is a terrible waste.
Think about death. DO IT. Do you want to go in the ground having wasted anything beyond your teens taking a stake in what stupid people post on tumblr? You should make your goal to laugh at anyone who sweeps a group, either gender, race, religious or otherwise all together as some kind of malicious entity. Russophobia is on the rise. People fuckin hate Muslims. Caitlyn Jenner has run over 4500 people and she hasn't even refilled her gas tank.
The culture supporting this perception operates poorly thanks to the terrific ignorance that comes with 7 Billion Individuals.
The point is that this shit:
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If you can name me one single male privilege that I cannot debunk then I will concede this argument. Go for it.
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Doesn't fly. Acknowledging that men have advantages isn't going to mitigate or demean those advantages. If your perception is that the concept of Male Privilege in general is something bad, you're ignoring that part of the idea of male privilege is you can just not give a shit what people complain about and get on with your day. I mean, correct me if I'm wrong, but part of the whole 'being a man' generalization has meant courteously being yourself as completely as possible. It's just part of what being an adult grants you; if a guy is just a lump of turds who lives on a bed of potato chip bags and watches anime all day, he's not much of a man, but exercising a sort of unabashed manliness nonetheless.
Forgiving people for not understanding basic things about who you are, and what it's like to be you is just part of being a 'Man' (or 'Woman'), because adulthood doesn't really mean reading each others faults and being prepared to kick their dick about whatever dumb shit they believe forms their world. Deep down there are plenty of things you'll never understand about 'them', and provided they aren't
literally forcing their ideology on you, why bother hating some elaborately specific archetype of a person you're perfectly capable of avoiding entirely anyway?
I'll tell you honestly, there are totally manipulative, skunky babes out there, the same way there are dishonest, superficial dudes. It's not really a persona limited to any gender or personality type, but these people get more and more obvious as time wears on, and they will never rule your life. This rhetoric that anyone is like this in a
popular way, that is, if they make up even the barest majority is wrong, and it leads nowhere but to big heaps of loathing that you can't really deposit on anything else than more made up demons .
It sounds stuffy and silly, but you really just need to see the good in things. Every cloud has a silver lining, etc... There's good in sitting alone with your phone or whatever off and nothing to occupy you but experiencing feeling
alone. Let the fact that everyone feels this way sometime in their life sink in and suddenly it's hard to really fault anyone for being a jerk at all, and it's kind of nice that
most people just try to get on with their day without interfering with yours, and like to be nice about it.