The problem isn't that depictions like this exist at all, the problem is that it is the industry standard, done practically on autopilot. There's only one model of storytelling being used by games and other media that feature such portrayals, and they are dominant. And it's not like writers are restricted to the paradigm, we can do better, it just requires more thought and effort.
The realism argument is a trap. I've played games where you see women being abused, variously part of the background, story or a side quest where you might intervene, or even watch it happen in all its gruesome detail. Even when it is portrayed as wrong or tragic, both the perpetrator and victim are one dimensional devices that serve the player character as a source of, say, XP and morality points. We don't see the consequences of the incident for either character, once they've served their purpose of establishing atmosphere or providing an unscripted XP boost, they're gone. And the justification for this portrayal? "Realism". Apparently it's one of the few aspects of reality that must make it into such media, but not so realistic as to portray the actual consequences. There are cleverer and less problematic ways to portray and critique abuse, even in games, but such instances are significantly rarer that the shittier portrayals are.
It is also demeaning to the audience to insist that they won't be able to handle or enjoy anything besides or in addition to what they are already getting, or won't be able or willing to identify with a PC of a different gender than themselves. Bringing up the unwillingness of publishers to take so-called "risks" (as though depicting half of the human race as anything more than background decoration, victims and plot devices is risky) is not a way to excuse the issue, it is itself part of that issue and thus something to criticise and fix.
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