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What about when someone threatens to rape you because they think you're attractive? I've had a friend tell me I was lucky I wasn't going to be in Chicago at the same time as him because "I'm so pretty [he] would rape me".
It is my fucking prerogative to choose when to take accept compliments or not. No one has to feel fucking honoured because someone else told them they are pretty, gorgeous, beautiful and I can tell you know women and men can take personal compliments as insulting.
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Don't you think bringing rape into this discussion is a little over the top? I mean, come on. Obviously rape is bad, m'kay? And using someone looks or clothing as an excuse to sexually harass them is also bad, m'kay? That is (obviously) not what I was talking about either.
There are plenty of douchemuffins in the world who look at a girl in a tight shirt and short shorts and see the way she dresses as an excuse to grab their ass or throw obnoxious sexual advances their way. Because 'she obviously wants it, right?'.
That is objectification. Because there's telling someone they're attractive/hot and there's making assumptions based on said attractiveness.
On the other side of the fence there will even be douchemuffins who will claim the girl is objectifying herself by dressing that way and 'could have expected such responses'. Which, of course, is also complete bullshit.
As for whom you decide to 'accept' compliments from; people can give you a genuine compliment and be a complete jerk about it. Case in point, your friend. The fact that he thinks you're pretty should be a compliment to you. The fact that he then says he'd rape you because of it should make you want to punch him in the face. Doesn't make the original compliment any less genuine, that's just having really (really) bad social skills for the followup of what probably supposed to be flirting (unless you think he's the kind of person who would actually rape you).