Children may well experience sexual arousal and be capable of sexual stimulation. But until they reach puberty and hormones have fully done their work, they do not understand, cannot understand, and will not understand, no matter how labouriously it is explained, the concept of sexual desire. There is a difference between becoming aroused when a sexual situation presents itself and acting deliberately to engineer said "desirable" situation.
A child may understand that sex feels good, but because they are not neurologically wired the way that a sexually mature person is, they don't understand that sex is something to be desired, competed for, and often achieved by coercion and violence. This means they cannot understand the mindset of a child molester, or what the molester wants from them. The power held by this pair is severely imbalanced, making any relationship they form inherently abusive. The child becomes a slave to the molester's authority.
And that's why paedophilia is so squick: It's not just a crime of rape, but of exploitation.
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