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Ok.. but just how many polygamous relationships have you known firsthand? 1? 2?.... 5?
Lets just be generous and say 5... Thats... maybe 15 people. 15 people out of hundreds.
Consider this. How many people do you know that have stayed with their first partner? How many normal relationships fall apart? And what is the average lifespan of a relationship?
The truth is that there is nothing inherently wrong with Polygamous relationships. Relationships in general just tend to fall apart because it takes a lot of maturity to stay with the same people for years and years on end.
Maybe opening up their relationship to a third destroyed it all... But that was just their way of tackling it. Other people would have tackled it differently. But it is not the polygamy that destroyed the relationship. It was the way the 3 or more members tackled it. Maybe there were factors they weren't ready for or mature enough to handle. But never blame the dynamic. Rather.... the people.
I could also blame my break up on the fact that it was a long distance relationship. And many people would accept that as a perfectly valid explanation. But it's simply not true. A dynamic is just a description. It's the people inside that make it work or fall. Part of making a relationship work is deciding what dynamic works best for them.
And yea I know you don't care if people want polygamy. But I do feel that you have a few wrong impressions of what polygamy is and such.
Edit: and you are right. Many people do feel left out in poly relationships... Because many people lack the necessary skills to make it work. It takes a lot more organization and planning to make it work, and many people just aren't ready for it. But like with anything, its something that you learn over time. Just like with monogamous relationships. I bet the majority of people made huge mistakes in their first few serious relationships that they learned from. I know I did, and it's helped me grow a lot as a person.
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I wanted to just pos-rep this and be done with it because it's a sound argument. But I can't, and it's not really fair just just ignore this.
So, I've only seen one polygamous relationship ever, I'm basing my feelings on the subject solely upon this one experience and my own personal beliefs. Probably a bit short sighted, but I don't have anything else to draw experience upon. I will alter what I said previously to this: I don't care for polygamous relationships because I don't feel humans (on a whole) are suited to sharing their love with more than one person. I know I couldn't do it. But as I said before, if someone does make a polygamous relationship work then good for them. The whole point of a relationship is to be happy, if all the participants are mature enough to accept the reality of their situation and they all love each other equally, then by all means I'm happy for these people. My qualm is that this rarely happens from what I understand.
Also in response to your first part, being the age that I am, I don't know a huge number of relationships that have stood the test of time, this is true. But they have last longer than the polygamous relationship I've known. It's not really a fair comparison because I've seen tens of dual relationships and only one triple entente. Nevertheless I feel a two way relationship has more chance of success than a three way.