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Originally posted by Surfacing
Well sorry Doug, i had no idea we were suppose to keep secrets here., next time i'll just keep my opnions and thoughts and emotions all bottled up would that make you happy?
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I suppose that you deserve points for honesty, but I think you need to understand that when you bluntly confess to being homophobic, it's not like announcing that you're lactose-intolerant in a topic about milk. You have to realize that while many might join you, many others perceive it as a hateful and narrow-minded viewpoint that is deserving of scorn and worse. It's as if Danny and Tom were talking about England and I threw in my 2 cents and added "by the way guys, I think you should know that I think people who live in England are [insert hateful and ignorant epithet of your choice here]!" Even if I really thought that, which of course I don't, if I'm insensitive enough to share it I would deserve the flames that I surely would get.
You should also realize that there is a difference between saying "I am uncomfortable with homosexuality" and saying you are a homophobe. While I take from your comment that you take the "phobic" part quite literally, i.e., fearful, as in phobia, in the U.S. "homophobia" more accurately connotes hatred for gays rather than fear of them. Your original comment struck me as "hey, I don't like gay people -- watch the gay talk." Maybe that's not what you intended to convey, but it's what I heard.
My biggest peeve with your comment was that it was completely in the wrong place. The inappropriate use of the term "gay" in the title didn't make it a topic about homosexuality. If you want to start a topic entitled: "I think homosexuality isn't normal; what do you think?" then have at it. But the bottom line was that your comment was not only spam, but putrid spam.