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What's the point in being in a relationship if you're going in it with the intention of having sex with someone else down the line.
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You assume sex is the only reason people stay together, which is simply not true. While sex serves as a very strong motivator for relationships to form, it isn't the sole thing keeping the relationship together.
My and my GF for instance have had a short period where we desperately tried to fight the urge to sex with others because we were afraid it would destroy our relationship. In the meantime that same urge started to tear up our relationship from the inside. Eventually we came to the conclusion that we were both unhappy with being cooped in with each other, but at the same time didn't want to lose each other for anything either. Like I said, our sex life is outstanding on any scale I can think of, so that certainly wasn't the problem either.
When we agreed to an open relationship the relationship immediately intensified hugely. Our sex, against all expectations, got even better as did our love for each other. So in my case, so far it's been all good. No downside except maybe the curiosity as to who exactly she's doing and how. But we generally tell each other those stories at some point, that's how open we are about this.
I think the problem that most people have with the idea of a threesome/open relationship is the assumption that someone always gets hurt. And what DI said is certainly true. Propose it to the wrong person and it will completely wreck your relationship. This is why threesomes and open relationships only have a chance at working if you're both open to the idea from the get go. It's not something either one person should have to get used to after months or years of steady relationship. It has to come natural or not at all.