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In my opinion humans have never been and never will be monogamous, no matter how much people try to pretend that they are. Every person, male or female, looks at the sex they are attracted to no matter if they are in relationship. And especially a lot of males would jump at the opportunity to have sex with a woman they have been eyeing for a while, if their partner gave them sincere permission.
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This sort of attitude is exactly why so many men have had to fight to assure their partners that they're dedicated to them. Do I find other women attractive or aesthetically pleasing? Sure, human nature. Would I 'jump at the opportunity to have sex with a woman' if Dorian gave me permission? Fuck no. Why? Because it defeats the purpose of being in a committed relationship, and more importantly, being married to her. I guess this is just where my old fashioned morals come into play, but the idea of 'open relationships' just seem fucking stupid and selfish to me. I mean it's basically one person settling for less so that they can go out and chase tail to their hearts content and
maybe bag someone who's
way out of their league [but would never date them in the first place], but it's okay, because you have your 'open relationship' to go back to, so you're never really alone. Meh. If it works for you guys, awesome, be happy. But I've had friends who have done and are doing the same thing, and they always seem inherently lonely to me, even when they're in a relationship with someone else.
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Actually I think that to say that threesomes and relationships are problematic is unfair. Maybe for the majority it's problematic because most people don't know what on earth they are doing, or they are strictly monogamous. But if a relationship has enough openness and trust and good communication it can work. Different kinks for different people, right?
What about those swingers? They seem to be enjoying themselves a lot. In fact I've heard about many relationships where it seems to work.
I think me and Chris had a sort of kind of threesome once, but I dunno if it counts. It was a bit weird. But we never felt bad about it. I enjoyed it.
So to say that there's one truth and one truth only regarding relationships(Im not saying you said this) is wrong. But some people are strictly monogamous, while others feel good and able to play with more partners. And there's absolutely nothing wrong with either scenario as long as people enjoy themselves and aren't having problems out of it.
But maybe Im not one to talk considering im quite unconventional x_x
Edit: Yet again, I said too much, didn't I? 
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My original comment was meant to state that threesomes and committed relationships, which in my mind are monogamous, don't mix. No matter how hard you try to explain it to me I'll never understand how committed you can be to someone if you're cool with them having sex with another person. A casual relationship? Fine, been there, done that. But to say you love a person, and pat them on the back as they're on the way out the door to go have sex with another person? Utterly foreign to me.
Swingers are a breed of their own. I think boredom is a huge factor there, but that's my own personal opinion.