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The only marriages I've seen where both partners were happy are always homosexual couples. Perhaps I need to find myself a man.
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BAM!
But happy homosexual couples shouldn't raise kids because they'll turn out.... screwed up. How's that for reasonable argument?
I do believe that is a trend, and I do believe this is because of the lack of 'expectations' that are felt need be met by a married couple pigeon-holing themselves into the stereotypes that are felt marriage entails. "For better or worse"....
The way I see it: natural human interaction- people come and go, we learn from acquantances and friends by interacting with each other... but none of these things or people are necessarily 'permanent'... so when one forces themself into the lifelong partnership that marriage is, stagnation occurs, and the natural component of human interaction is inhibited by choosing to be with another and embodying marriage stereotypes. Why do you think so many couples are unhappy? There are, of course, couples that are happy but in my experience they settle down and tend to become content with things as they build 'structure' and 'predictability' around themselves and their married lifestyles. No progress, no change. Change ends up being perceived as 'marriage troubles.' God forbid your partner changes.... 'You're not the person I married!!'
And also of course, I risk adding my own stereotypes to marriage; the way people choose to relate to one another, married or not, are as varied as the imagination.
This is really weird. I've got the TV on and while i was writing this the episode of family guy about gay marriage came on where Brian's (the dog) gay cousin comes to visit with his filipino boyfriend and announce they are getting married. Peter just happened to say:
"If gays want to get married and be miserable like the rest of us then I say let them!"
Synchronicity? Interesting that it should come on as I'm talking about that subject.