[Havoc]

People seem to be retarded and not understand the border between "Correcting", "Hitting" and "Beating the crap out of".

Mudling: Several kids have died from being hit by their parents? So you're comparing a corrective smack on the back of the head to a bunch of parents who dropkick their kids out the 70th floor window while they are asleep? Nice argument there man.

When we say "Hitting" we do not mean that you should throw your kid all over the livingroom, or throw him infront of a car, or rearrange his face with a bat. By hitting, we mean a small 'tap' on the head or the butt or the hand or the arm or whatever. Something that hurts enough for the kid to think twice before pulling shit like that again. Kid's arn't stupid. If a kid throws his food on the floor you warn him once. If he does it again you warn him again. If he's lucky het gets a final warning and after that you take your kid and give him a smack somewhere where it hurts (and continues to hurt for a while after that). After giving him a smack you tell him why you smacked him and that you will smack him again if he throw more food on the floor. And average 3 to 10 year old will listen to this and stop being a jerk because they don't wanna be smacked again because it hurts.

Now take a kid who also throws his food on the floor but who's parents just constantly give him warnings. He still does it after the third warning, then what? Send him up to his room? Be his guest, all his toys are there. He can entertain himself long enough there until you decide to let him off again. Kids arn't stupid and will see through their parents punishments after one or two times. After putting your kid on the stairs for being bad twice, the third time he's gonna see what happens if he just goes off the stairs. And then what are you gonna do? Tell him to go back? Once kids discover a weakness they will exploit it. Once they see that being sent up to their room is the worst you can do, they will try you to your very limits.

In short: A kid knows damnwell when he's doing something wrong if he's been warned about it before.
A kid who gets smacked will think "wait, if I do this now then my dad is going to smack me. Better not do it, not worth the trouble."
A kid who gets sent to his room wil think "If I do this now their gonna send me up to my room or something, but throwing my sisters piggybank out the window is just way to funny, it's worth it."

And don't make the mistake of underestimating kids. Just because they can't to math yet or have a mature debate or something doesn't mean their stupid.