I don't understand the point of putting yourself through unnecessary heartbreak, either. If you're perfectly content with your partner, then you're not missing out on anything. If you're truly happy with someone, then there is no reason to search for someone else that you will be happier with, as you've already reached your "goal," so to speak, in finding your mate. There is nothing above perfect satisfaction.
So then, if you're happy with your partner, why dispel that happiness to search for another source of love that may or may not come to fruition? And, if you do find someone that makes you just as happy or, for the sake of argument, happier, why not leave them and search for another in hopes that a newer, unknown partner will make you even happier? What would stop your from competing in a never ending cycle of constantly finding happiness, only to throw it away in a vain (and selfish) attempt to build upon that emotion? Satisfaction. Being wonderfully and ultimately content with your partner.
I understand where some of you are coming from. You're asking "What if?" in relation to these things. It's human nature. Dostoyevsky did say that Man will seek out his most advantageous advantage. But there lies my point. If you've found your most advantageous advantage, why bother looking for anything else?
I honestly don't feel that I'm missing out on anything.
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