This forum feels more like a catwalk than a forum sometimes. People here are just keeping up appearances, and would rather look hard, rude and "cool" than be a nice person.
I totally agree with you on the part about cosplay. For instance when Reese Charles offered to show everyone how he looks, he just got ridiculed, now I have to say, that is a pretty crap reward for taking the time to build up the courage that it must've taken to put a photo like that on here.
I think he said somewhere that he doesn't always look like that, and his "alienist" style was like a partying thing. Even after saying this, he was just told that he was trying to get out of it and avoid being laughed at. I only have vague memories of it, but I think that's how it went.
From what I can see, (I am going to analise now) there was a constant battle going on in his head. He couldn't decide whether to stay and put up with the flak, so that he could stay with his freinds here, or whether he should just leave and move on. He was prioritising his freinds over himself, and was prepared to stay that extra bit longer for his freinds, and put up with the abuse as long as possible.
Now I think what he did was quite honorable, but that's not why I mentioned it. The reason I mentioned it was because it is a perfect example of what is wrong with this forum. Every time I tried to apologise for getting stuff wrong here, I got stones thrown at me for it, yet every time I just refused to apologise for getting stuff wrong here, I get stones thrown at me for it. I can't apologise because it's a "fiendish ploy to avoid banning", and I can't refrain from apologising because that's "downright cowardly and inconsiderate".
There are a certain bunch of members here who have a serious problem with the above. They won't accept apologies, and would rather rub salt into an open wound by hurling abuse in the actual apology thread.
All of us know who these dickheads are, and they are a cancer on everyones enjoyment.
So there's your problem, and it's solution is banning. There will always be some bad people, but that doesn't mean that we have to put up with them.
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