Yes I have lost a family member before. I wouldn't say what I did if I hadn't, that would just be ignorant of me.
Alcar, this may look like we are all going a bit overboard with this, so I am just going to say: This whole thing is probably more to do with showing you how much we appreciate all that you have done for us and this forum, than to help ease your pain (although, it is obviously alot to do with it).
To me, the relationship between owner and pet (as I said earlier) is so much more than just love. Its not just "I love you because your a family member" but more like "I love you becuase you have loved me". Alcar, your pet really loved you, THAT is why you feel sad, because you have no way of showing it how much you appreciate that, and you have no way of showing it how you will miss it. Thats why its hard, because your poor Puss was an animal, not a human, and that animal is gone. Even when it was alive, all you could do was enjoy the time you had together. But that was all you could have done, and the evidence of you doing so is right there. There is no fooling anyone with a pet, it either likes you or it doesn't. These variables are results of your actions. So feel proud, you made that cats life a happy one. And even though short as it was, it still means something, because it died knowing it was loved, and probably died thinking about the lovely warm, loving home it would return to when it came back.
The fact that it didn't is why we greive.
But he is not gone completely, his memory still remains. Whether god exists, or whether its just a load of lies and myths, nobody can take that away from you. So treasure those memories.
Thats how I deal with it.
Reese
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