When did you understand you need to change?
 

Basically, when I came to Germany (half a year ago). I understood how much of abrasive filth I actually was and started to work hard to become the best version of me.

That was also the time I started listening to ethnic music all the time.

Idk I've changed a lot. The first time was when I met this guy in highschool, he kinda showed me what it meant to have ambitions. 3 years later was my next change, when I realized that despite the fact he did a great thing for me, he was a shitty person and that I needed to care about myself too. And last night I realized I need to start actually doing shit with my life and removing the toxic bitches who hold me down.

I was a homophobic Catholic and now I'm a pansexual atheist and it's all OWF's fault.

I'm already perfect.

Literally last summer

same

Anyone else would think this is a joke but anyone was around for this knows it's (amazingly) actually true.

B)

I have no sense of smell so I switch the undies and socks everyday and change my t-shirt every couple of days. Seems to work out.

Well, I wasn't consciously homophobic, but I was horrifically mean and lacked a filter.

Probably when I realized that allowing abusive people into my life made me push away the people who actually meant some good for me.

And maybe after I got arrested for the third or fourth time.

Oooo people being arrested.

So... that's why you're not visiting OWF often, right?

The only thing that's changed about me is the fact i've learnt not to give a single fuck what anyone thinks or says about me.

OWF helped a lot with that.

Not so long ago you called OWF a cancer and were angry to the point of wanting to leave forever.

I've understood it since, like, 2012. Just haven't found a way to do it yet.

That reaction was from reading some of the comments in a derailing thread and it pissed me off. Plus the fact I was particularly grumpy that day.

I wasn't involved nor was it about me. Sometimes this place can make you want to scream.

I guess I kind of realised it before, but it only really sunk in that I couldn't just ignore the fact that I was unpleasant, irritable and annoying and everything would be okay when my girlfriend of two years whom I thought I was going to marry left me in tears and said she still loved me but couldn't be around me. And yeah, she got with someone else a month later and admitted that she hadn't been in love with me for a long time, but the reasons for that were the same. I don't want to treat anyone horribly, let alone people I love, and I need to change so that I can avoid acting like that and be aware of it when I am.

Trying to be a good Husband was a good reason to change my worst habits and focus on self improvement. :happy:

I can grow a beard now. Mostly.

After the age of 3, I became obsessed with the acquisition of knowledge. Since that day, I've been trying to grasp the inner machinations of the universe. At the age of 12, I adopted a philosophy: the most rational decision is the best decision. Think things through carefully, consider your choices, and then act. Abandon emotions, they get in the way of everything and impair your judgement. Collect information, use the information to give you an advantage over others. Collect evidence, look at it, consider its implications, and make a judgment based on your findings. At my current age, I have realized that OWF is a cesspool, and have begun to rethink joining this forum kill me

We already know you're the most changed member. No need to come in here and show off.

My hair has changed way more over the past few years than I have.

Probably a few days ago when I came scarily close to committing suicide via jump rope hanging.

I don't even know if it would've worked.

Like...for real?

I feel normal with you guys.

Mr. Bungle, stop watching Gravity Falls. You will feel better.

When I saw myself... and catched myself always thinking about the girl,
who didnt want to be with me..., that was so disgraceful and I felt as I have nothing more to offer than that... every other girl isnt as interesting than "that" girl...

So I thought to myself (if I can really think at that time) that I need to change... and that as fast as possible..., so I try not to think about her and at the same time I try to work on me as harder I could...

(It is not her fault, I would do anything for her, I love her so much..., but I dont like the temporary condition, I feel that something big is waiting for me anyway, that is what me keeps going forward, all or some of the time. :) )

For real. It's pretty sad, but at least I'm getting some professional help now.

I hate myself so much.

If you ever need someone to chat to feel free to PM me or add me on Steam or something.

Welcome aboard fam

Eh?

What about OddChat? Don't keep Mr. Bungle to yourself.

There are a few of us talking on Oddchat at the moment, actually. You should all come join.

I can't get in. Keep getting a redirect to this weirdness:

and a whole bunch of other code jargon I don't understand.

Does somebody listen to Beatsteaks anyway?... :-D

There are a bunch of clients you can use for IRC if the Slashnet webchat doesn't work. This one should be fairly easy, if you haven't used one before: https://kiwiirc.com/client

Just put #oddchat in the Channel box, expand "Server and network" and change Server to irc.slashnet.org.

I think the biggest change that ever came to me was when I first started my high schooling.

I had never really made friends with my classmates back in Danish elementary, since it had been such a jump for me to move from the US to Denmark (around the fifth grade). It took me so long to get to know them and I found their interests were so radically different from mine that it was impossible to get along with them for extended periods of time. I tried here and there to get into their ways of thinking, but it wasn't really very substantial. I could speak with them, have conversations with laughs and jokes, but I didn't think of any of them as friends and I didn't spend more time with them than necessary for the most part.

The reason for this was twofold. The first was the language barrier. Despite the fact that I'm native to Denmark, technically, I had grown up in the US and was in all but legal terms an American when I moved to Denmark. Even though I had learned some Danish when I lived at home, enough to carry out conversations with my parents and sometimes my grandparents, all of which spoke Danish very frequently, it wasn't really enough to conduct natural conversation. When I spoke, everything I said was more than a bit stilted or slow. Even now, I don't think of my Danish as being fluent enough to seem native.

The other problem was that I was a thorny cunt back then, with no degree of tolerance for anyone who wasn't me. There's not much more to say about that one. I don't think I ever really realized I was a thorny cunt until after I had actually changed.

My revelation came in a fairly simple way. When I came to high school, I started out acting more or less as quiet and isolated as possible, having been used to not interacting with anybody and thinking it'd be that way here as well. I wanted to establish that early on so people would leave me alone. That particular act went for about two weeks.

Basically, I liked my new classmates much more than my old classmates from elementary. Because the particular branch of highschool I went to was internationally oriented, many of my classmates were from outside the country. They were in a similar boat to my own. And they acted and thought differently from anyone I had met in elementary. I can't think of anything negative to say about them, so they were essentially the best classmates.

As a result, it didn't seem right to try to stay away from all these interesting and kind people, so I changed my approach gradually from being as distant and insular as possible to trying to be a much less cuntish and warmer person. It was pretty obvious that it was significantly more satisfying to be that person after a brief while. And as part of trying to be that person, it came naturally that I had more patience and acceptance for other people.

My friends still describe me as more than a bit anti-social from time to time, which makes sense because I typically choose to be alone when I can. I just don't dislike company like I used to.

That's my grand tale of actually making friends, basically. Not an incredible journey, but it's nice to look back and feel like a better person than I used to be.

Change comes with age in my experience. Like any teenager I thought I had the world figured out at 16, and then at 20 I still thought that, but I also thought that 16 year old me didn't have a clue. After 20 the gradual realization set in that I don't know everything and that world issues, big or small, always have multiple points of view. Now I'm pushing 30 and I laugh at 16 year old me for how clueless I was.

I now look at the world like an old man, seeing all the conflict that goes on and shaking my head at it because it all seems so fucking meaningless and I don't feel like wasting any more energy on even thinking about it, let alone debate about it. Then I close the blinds and play videogames. That's the one thing about me that will never change and the one thing I will never stop debating on.

That's the spirit. Hope I suffer my fatal heart attack at the keyboard during some grand RTS battle! :happy:

Well that escalated quickly.