Soulmates
 

Does anyone believe that theirs somone out there for them? or you just meet somone randomly and move on? Im not really sure, what if your soulmate just passes you walking down the street and you'll never see them again.And once youve met your soulmate, how are you sure its the one?:confused:

Why yes I do. And you just... know when you find him/her. It's pretty easy to figure it out over a little time.

^_^

Nah, I think that's a fairly fatalistic viewpoint.

I merely believe that there are some people on this world who are better suited to be with me than others. And thus my purpose is to find one of those people. But there is no one special individual to whom I am particularly well matched.

Think about it; if there was only one person for me, that would be one person in 6 billion on this planet. What's the chances of me meeting my soulmate if he's a llama herder in a small village in Peru, or a tribal chief in deepest darkest Congo?

I find the concept of 'soulmates' to be stupid.
Nate summed it up pretty well.
And Ambi, you can't 'know' you've found your 'soulmate' if you haven't shopped around...

Well... There will always be one person suited better for you than another... And well, i don't believe in a soulmate which is meant just for you.. But if you by some weird chance find the person suited best for you... well lucky you i guess :p

Anyways, I just have a few qualities i look for in a male, if he has em, good for him, if he doesnt, then screw him :p

I don't believe in soulmates, but I do believe there are people you can find who are perfect or near enough perfect for you. I found one of those people but it ended rather painfully and unexpectedly for reasons out of my control. :p

aww poor you, theres always more fish in the sea

Sure you can. When you find someone who you see yourself with forever and feel no need to "shop around" anymore, then you're set. If you're not meant to be together, then the need to look around for another will arise.

Besides, if you go by Nate's logic, you'd have to "shop around" about 6 billion people before you absolutely know. And if there is someone you're meant to be with, they probably wouldn't be a sheep herder far away as that would pretty much go against everything lining up just right.

On a side note, I don't actually believe there's a soul mate for every individual on earth. I'm one of those crazies who believe in partial fate. Certain events are supposed to happen in some people's lives and not in others' lives. Most things are random, but some things are fate. The existence of someone you're meant to be with may or may not be a part of your fate.

Don't choo judge me! :p

I am inclined to agree. If you're perfectly content with the person you have, then there is absolutely no reason to look around for anyone else. That's what you would call a "soulmate," or whatever.

I've always thought that "soulmate" was kind of a cheesy word, though.

However, I'm not sure if I can believe in love at first sight. I think it's more probable that there is only infatuation at first sight, but love would have to grow out of that over time. It almost speaks less about love if it were so easily obtained, without any bonding whatsoever.

And I must agree with that. There was a definite attraction/interest/maybe infactuation at first sight, but I remember it was about six months into our relationship when I finally realized that I had definitely found someone I could see myself loving forever. But that sort of "knowing" still had some developing to do in further months.

Aww, isn't that nice :D.

Well, anyways, I'm with Rich on this, I believe there are multiple so called "soulmates".

Soul-mates suck. They spend a few months with you then you wake up one morning, wallet gone and your bank accounts empty. That is so irritating.

You could put across looking for soulmate is like looking for your identicial twin. Not as in appearance but the things like.

We both like TV, crisps, sweets and TV. Things you can share that you both enjoy. Personally I think soul mates is very physiological. Depending on the person's personality.

wow.

i think my dick just fell off.

I dont get you...What do you mean?

I think it's an insult of some sort. Or he's just saying that what you're saying is corny.

All you kids are too young to know what true love is.

enough said

I think love is rather over-rated. There are times when I think I could fall in love with someone, but once you sleep with them it sucks the fun out of everything, not to mention making things extremely awkward.

Meh, perhaps I'm still hung up on my FTL (First True Love to those not in the know :p) to let anything new come in.

Though I still maintain that having a best best best best friend is better than any partner. Perhaps thats just me though.

Alcar...

Damn. Apparently I've been living a lie for the past three years.

Now that I've got my life back in order, I can thank you for the overt wisdom, old timer.

i'm glad to hear it, kiddo

Don't worry about 'im, he's Welsh.

:p and proud of it, you loved up kiddies :D

Ah, I have a lot of opinions on this subject. But I don't have time to go through them all and I doubt anyone would want to read them all either! :p
But I think I'd have to agree with Searex and AquaticAmbi on this mostly...


I don't actually agree with "shopping around" at all. I mean, in my opinion, it's better to just concern myself with making friends, both male and female, and getting to know them well, and then if one of them should turn out to be a match, that'swhen I would make a move in that direction. The advantages of this are a strong friendship base (and they say the best relationships start out as friendships), I actually know the person pretty well before I even start a relationship, and I can keep break-ups to a minimum, to name just a few. Of course, even then it could still not work out, so I'm not counting on never having to break up with anyone, but I can certainly keep the number down.
And another thing with searching out a special someone is, if you're that concerned with finding someone, you might rush it. Meaning you could a) choose someone who isn't really suitable, or b) rush the relationship itself. And I don't believe love is something that can be rushed.

And I think sex is over-rated, so meh to you! :p You're bound to disagree, but I think there's generally a misunderstanding of what love really is. It is definately not just an emotion, and I have an example to "prove" that.
Emotions are pretty crazy and wild and unpredictable; you can be super happy one minute and down in the dumps the next. And they're never consistent; even someone who suffers from depression isn't sad every moment of every day.
But then we say about "loving someone forever." Well, if love is just an emotion, how the heck can you do it forever? Because emotions sure don't last forever...
And I think this is why so many couples who are supposedly "in love" eventually break up - once the emotions died down, that was the end.
I don't think real love is something that can be explained just like that, but it's not simply an emotion. If anything, it's a choice - the decision to do what's best for the other person, no matter how you feel, no matter what they may have done to hurt you etc. In short, the desire to do what's best for the other person all the time.

Anyway... I think that's enough ranting from me for today. :p

alrite im just going to say this.

People say a guy thinks with their heads, hearts or dicks. I say they are wrong. A guy only thinks about his tackle. Some think they're in love but sub-consiously they've built a huge fantasy over rooting that girl. That's why they want her so badly. SOLUTION: Root another girl and you'll start to heal the pain. Trouble is some guys get so wrapped up in one girl they tell themselves they don't want anyone else. Every guy i've known has been pretty sweet about breaking up with their missus, but this is AFTER they've done them. If they never got in there they'll be the most shatterd bastards out.

As for girls, deep down every one of them just wants it. That's initially all they want from guys, but after you root them (sober), they'll want more then that. They'll start to like you so much it'll be really boring.

That's what it's all about. There are no such thing as soulmates. Can you tell me had your happily married parents never met, they would not have found someone else they like just as much?

Wow... just wow.

I'll say... Geez...
You know, just my two cents, if that was all relationships were about, I personally wouldn't be interested. If all they were about is getting physical pleasure then... no thanks.

I don't believe in 'soulmates', but I sure as hell don't believe what Slig_Cake is talking about.

You wouldn't have to shop around, because the summary of his logic is that there are no soulmates.

Oh, and the logic of not needing to 'shop around' because you know you've found 'the one' is flawed. Say the world was in black and white, and that's all anyone ever saw. People would find nothing wrong with only seeing that, whereas we know that they're missing out on so much, but they don't even think about it because they've never seen colour. So you say everything is fine with your relationship, but you don't know what you could be missing, if you understand me.

By the way, I'm not trying to say anything bad about your relationship with SeaRex, I just like arguing.
:p

To be honest, I think a lot of what Slig_cake has said is rather true. Or perhaps I live in the wrong parts of Sydney.

Alcar...

What if you find your "soul mate" but they don't feel the same way as you? Does that mean they're not really your soulmate? But what if you feel that strongly towards them? You are in total love. What then? That's how stalkings occur, isn't it?

Its not right unless they like you back, if they love you back you'll love that person a lot more than you'll love someone who doesn't love you in return.

Ah. That's a really good analogy. Too good. :p I have to be careful about how I word this... It's easy to know you're with someone who's right for you by comparison to other people even if you don't actively look for another possible mate.. because if there's any attractions, they'll occur naturally. Just by knowing and having friends of the opposite sex, I have enough interaction with others to still know I'm with the right person. I'm not living in a black and white world. I can see perfectly all the "black and white" guys around me, but I've only seen one person of "color." So for the sake of the conversation (but far from what I believe), if either of us were to meet someone who would be better for us--"more colorful"--then the person would be easy to notice.

Regardless, why mess with a good thing? ;)

EDEET: Hah, I feel the need to add this: It's not like either of us were never attracted to anyone else before we met each other. Obviously, nothing ever went anywhere with those attractions, so if anything, we were both experiencing the "black and white world" before each other and have only now found a "colorful" one. (Bwaha, sorry, I do tend to stretch out metaphors and whatnot to a great extent.)

I don't understand the point of putting yourself through unnecessary heartbreak, either. If you're perfectly content with your partner, then you're not missing out on anything. If you're truly happy with someone, then there is no reason to search for someone else that you will be happier with, as you've already reached your "goal," so to speak, in finding your mate. There is nothing above perfect satisfaction.

So then, if you're happy with your partner, why dispel that happiness to search for another source of love that may or may not come to fruition? And, if you do find someone that makes you just as happy or, for the sake of argument, happier, why not leave them and search for another in hopes that a newer, unknown partner will make you even happier? What would stop your from competing in a never ending cycle of constantly finding happiness, only to throw it away in a vain (and selfish) attempt to build upon that emotion? Satisfaction. Being wonderfully and ultimately content with your partner.

I understand where some of you are coming from. You're asking "What if?" in relation to these things. It's human nature. Dostoyevsky did say that Man will seek out his most advantageous advantage. But there lies my point. If you've found your most advantageous advantage, why bother looking for anything else?

I honestly don't feel that I'm missing out on anything.

I'm glad you liked my analogy, Ambi, I rarely do them.

You're both saying the chance is always there that you could find someone even more suited to you, then who is your 'soulmate'?

Heh, I only argued about the chance of a better mate for the sake of discussion. I don't actually believe there's someone else better suited for me out there. You're not the only one who just likes arguments. :p

Actually, I was saying that you guys were saying that. :p

I was using the situation hypothetically.

I'm done with this discussion, I was done with it the minute I saw it. And I'm hhhhhungry!

You should do more, you have a real talent for them!!

Indeed.

I agree with having a relationship, I think if she's a top chick then go for it. But the trouble with some guys is that they have the idea that if they keep liking someone, and wearing their heart on their sleeve about it that they'll end up falling for them. Dosn't work that way and you're only goin to waste your time with it.

The moral of this story: True love conquers all, including SAM! ;)

Afraid I'll have to agree with the girls on this one.

I never believed in Soul mates either but I found mine AND I wasn't even looking.

Just for the record he lives 4,000 miles away in England and we managed to meet. When there is a person out there destined for you...you will find each other.

Call me crazy if you want but I believe in soul mates.