Dang, I wish I had a donut. My Valentine's day was lonely, and I sent this girl a Valentine. And the class ponce started blabbing to everybody, I hate him so much...

I don't think that's true at all. If your friends don't like your girlfriend, then you should rethink either who you hang out with or who you date. I think it kinda sucks to look for different things in your friends and your lovers, aside from the obvious physical and romantic attractions thing. Girl/boyfriends should be friends too.

Although sometimes people get jealous and whatnot, and a group of otherwise compatible people gets all fractured and shitty. So I guess that could go either way.

I think V Day is evil. To some it's a great day. But there's a handful of people who don't get a date and are lonely and feel bad and feel loserish. Luckily, I escaped that hand and jumped onto the, "I DONT CARE" hand.

If my friends don't like the guy, he goes, it's as simple as.

But I've been told it's different for guys than it is for girls. Something like to a guy, his girlfriend is the most important person in the world. But to a girl, the boyfriend is usually on par [of importantness] or below friends.

- Rexy

I don't necessarily care about V-day, not even when my girlfriend Lois is around. I see it as pointless for some reason. Then again, all holidays and occasions are wrecked by my evil 16 year old cousins.

See, the thing is, your friends might think and act differently than your significant other, so how could you take their opinion into account if they aren't like your significant other at all? Perhaps they just dislike your boy/girlfriend just because they don't act the same way as your friends do.

Wow, that isn't right at all. So, you're saying, if your friends didn't like the guy, you'd dump him no matter what?

Now, let's say they were jealous that you spent more time with him then you did with them, and as a result, they told you they didn't approve of him so you'd dump him. Now what?

I definitely think that concept is illogical since well, I am FEMALE and because my "friends," many in fact, would always claim that my boyfriend may not be good enough for me or that he may not appear as genuine as I had hoped for. Well, I've known my boyfriend longer than I've known them and they were VERY wrong since they turned out to be the ones who were disappointments, which is no surprise, but it just shows that friends are NOT always correct. They're merely jealous of their friend's happiness and hope to plant stupid thoughts in one's brain. I would never trust any person with their opinion on my relationship. A relationship should depend on the two people that are involved, case closed. No one can know better than yourself.

I spent the evening/morning watching films with the disappointing sort of girlfriend.

Dag, no weenie kisses?


Just because two people are different from one another doesn't mean their opinions on each other are void. And as I said, if your friends don't like your significant other just because he/she is different, maybe you should rethink who you hang out with.

Now your friends are happier.

Yeah, if your friends suck ass.

That's a stupid and arrogant point of view. Lots of times it takes an outside view to give a relationship perspective.

Valentine's Day I went out into the City with one of my best friends and just hung out like we normally do. I received a few text message valentines, and around two in person, but they were all in good humour.

I didn't expect anything serious because everyone knows I'm not in the mood for relationships, especially in the coming months. Such a stance has caused one or two friendships to cease, but that is the price you pay.

Alcar...

But, thanks to your friends, you may be missing out on a wonderful reltionship :p.

No it isn't. My girlfriend and I know more about our relationship than anyone else does, and therefore have a better understanding and opinion of it than anyone else. My friends are ignorant, immature individuals who hardly have any knowledge when it comes to serious relationships. Therefore, they'd be the last people I trust when it came to mine. I wouldn't trust anyone else either, as the only things people have been telling me and my girlfriend is "Maybe your not ready", "You should try to date other people first", or "You spend too much time with each other". Mind you, my girlfriend and I have known one another for over 5 years, and have been dating for nearly two. We never fight, we hardly ever have disagreements, and we're basically the same person. All things considered, I view this relationship as being perfect. Now, can you honestly tell me that, judging by some of the things I've quoted people as saying to us, that she and I don't have a better understanding of our relationship than anyone else?

Stupid and arrogant? Don't make me laugh. In my former post, I was referring to friends who offer their opinions of a person's relationship without knowing the details. I mentioned that my friends suggest that my relationship was not what it seemed when I never spoke of the details, so how is what I said stupid and arrogant? I do indeed know some people who "suck" as you say, and therefore, why would their opinion matter to me? I do not believe all of one's friends can give positive advice about relationships, especially towards young teenagers who have moronic problems in a relationship. A relationship is about the TWO people that are involved as I said before and should truly include their perspectives of the relationship and discuss it. Friends shouldn't be so ignorant and claim they know about a person's life and offer such STUPID information and "advice" when it wasn't asked by the person who is being criticized. If a person wants advice, they'll ask a friend or family member, etc. People don't need to take such nonsense from friends who are oblivious of the common lifestyle of a man and a woman being together. So, what you think I said may be stupid and arrogant was merely an opinion of how friends usually give negative feedback about this situation when no complaint was made in the first place.

I tend to listen to my closest friends more than anyone else. Being girls, they tend to be better judges of a girl's character than me. Also, I have the tendency to be too nice to people when I shouldn't be and they'll tell me that. If they don't like a girlfriend, then she's gone.

Ah Romance... One man's pain-killer, another's pain-inducer.

My buck and a half on this one is that it really depends. If you have some really awesome friends, one's that would still be there for you if you totally massacred their lawn, house, and car in one night, then I'd listen to them and think about what they say. Not always follow it as everyone makes mistakes, but at least listen.
But if you have the kind of friends who tell you to do somehting because they think it would be funny, or get hauled to the police station for being drunk in public regularly, or just plain-old ass hole friends who are just plain A-holes...Yeah, don't take heed what the stupid man says. Unless of course they do know things about relationships.

Ta-Da!

Refer to Kimon's previously stated tenet, "Rethink who you hang out with."

I dunno, I don't know you.

I'm sticking to my guns on this one though. I've had a few friends who had the same views on relationships as you, and have fucked over everyone besides their boy/girlfriend completely. It's pretty selfish. I've been on the shitty end of the "Lover > Friends" stick too many times to support that way of thinking.

Well, in all honesty, I'd pick my girlfriend over just about anybody I know in my life anyday. And it isn't selfish. I just know that my girlfriend would always be there for me when I needed her, unlike some of the other people in my life.

Well, on a related note, the girl I asked out said "yes". W00t!


And, I think that so far, my girl-friend and my friends are going to kinda go hand in hand. Neither will be more influencial than the other... until our relaitonship gets a bit stronger. But with the friends I have, I doubt this'll be a problem.

Heh, congrats, Arxryl! Hope your new relationship goes smoothly :)

Great to hear, Arxryl. Hope all goes well :)

Thanks guys! :) :fuzwink:

No problem at all, dude :D.

Alright Arxryl! Hope you have a great time with this girl and all goes well!

This thread should be named, 'Discuss yer Lovers' thread, really. I can't imagine how this thread could possibly go on for longer than a week without considering making a new topic.

Heh, it really should be renamed. It really doesn't have to do with Valentine's day anymore, as much as it does with relationships in general.

Definitely. I guess since it was the day to appreciate love, we all got carried away... blissfully. somewhat...