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Can't have friends

Posted 01-06-2015 at 08:36 AM by Job McYossie
Every fucking time I try to have a close friend this happens. Every time. I get a group of friends and we start regularly hanging out and being awesome and my depression finally starts lifting and I start doing things and being healthy and not wasting away like the waste of life I usually am, but then just fucking out of no where they end up hating each other. It's almost always over stupid shit too. And then the group disbands. And I can't really be friends like I used to because all they do around me is complain about the other person.

Why is it too fucking much to ask to have one group of friends who don't fall apart? This rarely seems to be an issue other people so regularly have, meaning that I'm the changing variable, so this must somehow be my fault. But what can I do to change it? I don't have enough info to make any sort of inference so now I'm just stuck for the Nth time falling back into depression and being a piece of shit.

I get that some friends come and go but it'd be nice to have at least 2 friends that I can hang out with. This is pathetic, I shouldn't be complaining but I guess that's all I ever do so why stop?
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Crashpunk's Avatar
Do you know why you all fell out? do you even know if it is you or not? People just sometimes don't get along. And if the group breaks that easily, they weren't true friend to begin with.

People are weird.

I'm lucky enough to have the same friend group all my life, And I found it really helped that we grew up together.
Posted 01-06-2015 at 08:55 AM by Crashpunk

Manco's Avatar
Friends will break up and make up all the time, don't worry about it and don't get stuck in the middle. You usually don't meet your real lasting friends until later on in life, so just enjoy things as they are now. Hang out with who you can and don't worry about it.

Incidentally I've never had a consistent group of friends all my life.
Posted 01-06-2015 at 09:20 AM by Manco

Phylum's Avatar
There are always rough patches with friends. Don't stress too much. Like Manco said, just spend time with whoever you want and things will get better. Be thankful that you get opportunities to go out and do things, because that's more than some of us.

I've blogged a few times about not fitting in with my friends. In the latest I came to a pretty great revelation - that I'm probably not a completely useless lost cause and with enough time I'm bound to meet new people. Even if it's shitty right now, there's going to be better times ahead.

Stay positive, stay happy.
Posted 01-06-2015 at 02:07 PM by Phylum

MA's Avatar
On top of what these guys said, which is good advice, don't ever call yourself a piece of shit. You should never think that. No one should. You're a good person and deserve the right to speak your mind just like everyone else.
Posted 01-07-2015 at 02:02 PM by MA

Scrabaniac's Avatar
I've always had issues between close friends, Two of my closest friends absolutely hate each other, and refuse to be around me if the other one is present. Since i've moved to university i haven't had any of that bullshit. If people don't like hanging out with other people they get the middle finger. Life's too short to please everyone, so i just dedicate my time to the important ones.
Posted 01-07-2015 at 03:27 PM by Scrabaniac

Job McYossie's Avatar
The issue is that both of these people are incredibly close to me. One of them is my brother and the other is someone who I am also really close to.
Posted 01-07-2015 at 05:13 PM by Job McYossie

Manco's Avatar
You and your brother don't have to be friends with all the same people.
Posted 01-07-2015 at 11:18 PM by Manco

Jordan's Avatar
I have no idea how old you are and I don't want to make any assumptions. I apologize if I'm being a patronizing shit, please tell me if I am.

However, IF you are fairly young (18-) this is quite a common occurrence. People are immature and will often fall out growing up. This is one reason why friendships from childhood don't last. By the time everyone has matured, they have moved on and made new friends. I am only friends with a couple of people from school and we are lucky to still be so close.

It's a shitty thing to deal with, but try to rise above it and one day you will find a group of friends grown up enough to keep their shit together.
Posted 01-08-2015 at 04:08 AM by Jordan

MA's Avatar
And you can have and make friends. Of course you can.
Posted 01-09-2015 at 06:15 AM by MA

 

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