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Highschool drama

Posted 05-20-2012 at 06:20 AM by Phylum
Updated 08-11-2012 at 06:23 AM by Phylum
This is a rant about a stupid, highschool drama. If I were you I wouldn't bother reading it, but I'm frustrated and feel the need to write it up somewhere.

This is additional warning that I haven't proofread this.

A friend of mine Jane, who I've had a crush on for a while now but had a boyfriend, started crapping on about some hypothetical situation the other day. I managed to read into it that she was interested in me and unsure of whether to stay with her boyfriend. I told a friend about this, unsure of what to do. This was where everything fell apart.

I receive an apologetic message that night from Jane telling me how I misinterpreted her metaphor. Seeing as I'd only told one person it seemed fairly obvious how word had traveled back to her.

The next day I go back to my friend at tell her what Jane had told me, although she had heard a different story. According to her Jane had been alarmed and lied to cover her arse.

At this point I realised how this was becoming a stupid highschool drama, and that it was on the verge of becoming incredibly tedious. I spend the next two days debating if I should talk to her or not, but in the end I decide that would be stupid(er). Little do I realise how rediculous already things were.

On Friday casual conversation with Jane in music class led me to see that she seemed incredibly distressed and angry. I later find out that she had dumped her boyfirend. I couldn't help but feel excited when I heard that, but scorned myself for it later.

That night I get a long Facebook message from her saying how angry she is with me and how much she felt pressured into dumping him. A bit of conversation reveals that my uncovering the meaning of the metaphor made her feel pressured. At this point I feel like a right shit.

Today I recieved another message from her spelling everything out a bit clearer. When she found to that I'd told someone what her metaphor meant she panicked. It also came out that the friend that I'd been talking to for support had been telling her things etc.

So, now she's very angry with me and I feel bad. It's really typical that the time I tell someone something going on in my life it comes back to bite my arse. I really like this girl and I don't even want to think about how long it will be until she'll talk to me again.

So, yeah. She may have overreacted about the pressure to do something, but now she has a list of justified reasons to be angry with me. I really feel shit about this whole thing. She is very upset and angry, and even if it isn't directly my fault I feel awful for her. The other day she told me that I was interesting and that she enjoyed talking to me, something nobody has ever said. Now she probably doesn't want to be in the same room as me. She's one of so few people that I can actually talk to, let alone enjoy talking to.

tl;dr Stupid highschool drama. I told someone something that was going on in my life and it exploded in my face. I now feel like shit about it.
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Scraby's Avatar
Same f'kin thing happened to me :/
Sorry to hear that m8.Hope things get better.
Posted 05-20-2012 at 06:42 AM by Scraby

Nate's Avatar
How ridiculous. She plays mind games on you by using metaphor rather than speaking clearly, then gets pissed at you for misunderstanding. Or possibly for actually understanding, rather than misunderstanding like she'd hoped.

And your mutual friend acts like a bitch and sneaks around behind both of your backs, whilst getting off scot-free.

Let's be clear here: You put no pressure on her whatsoever. She put pressure on you by being so opaque. If anyone put pressure on her, it was your mutual friend.


The only advice I can give is to be honest with her and ask her to be open with you instead of speaking in code. I give no guarantees that this will work, mind.
Posted 05-20-2012 at 07:06 AM by Nate

MeechMunchie's Avatar
For social animals, humans really are shit at communicating.
Posted 05-20-2012 at 07:15 AM by MeechMunchie

STM's Avatar
Maybe it's time to be honest with her and actually tell her how you feel about her? Nothing bad will happen, the world won't stop, you won't be vilified forever, and if she says no, it's not even that hard to play it off, or make it sound like you don't care. Whatever you decide to do, best of luck mate, I hope it works out for you, love is a bitch.
Posted 05-20-2012 at 07:38 AM by STM

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Maybe it's time to be honest with her and actually tell her how you feel about her? Nothing bad will happen.
This is not neccesarily true.
Posted 05-20-2012 at 07:44 AM by MeechMunchie

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Well it is, the worst thing that could possibly happen is she says no, maybe a few people find out, tease him a bit, or more likely offer their condolences, in a week or two, everyone moves on and the world just keeps on spinning.
Posted 05-20-2012 at 07:47 AM by STM

Daxter King's Avatar
Yeah, its really bad to just have a hidden crush on a girl who is a friend, you should tell her.
Posted 05-20-2012 at 08:39 AM by Daxter King

Varrok's Avatar
I'd better not tell her anything hastily if I was you. I made some mistakes in my life.
Posted 05-20-2012 at 12:42 PM by Varrok

STM's Avatar
Who hasn't?
Posted 05-20-2012 at 01:22 PM by STM

Varrok's Avatar
Me from two years back : D
Posted 05-20-2012 at 01:54 PM by Varrok

STM's Avatar
Damn your life must have been boring.
Posted 05-20-2012 at 02:00 PM by STM

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Yes.

And Phylum: I think you should wait a while to see how she'll act. Don't feel guilty that she dumped that boy (duh), it was her decision to do it after all, it just means she kinda feels something towards you too, you're not in a bad position... just wait till she's calm enough
Posted 05-20-2012 at 02:28 PM by Varrok

MA's Avatar
i totally agree with Nate and STM. whatever happens, happens. do what you feel.

don't listen to Varrok. he sounds like one of those kids in a glass bubble that other kids throw stones at.
Posted 05-20-2012 at 04:52 PM by MA

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The thing I feel worst about is that she's so angry with me, for the record. I don't think that was clear enough in the initial post.
Posted 05-21-2012 at 12:20 AM by Phylum

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don't listen to Varrok. he sounds like one of those kids in a glass bubble that other kids throw stones at.
Um... I think it's nothing like that. There just was a point in my life I did things exactly as you/Nate/STM suggested here and it didn't end particulary well. Dunno, maybe I just wasn't lucky.
Posted 05-21-2012 at 04:17 AM by Varrok

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The thing I feel worst about is that she's so angry with me, for the record. I don't think that was clear enough in the initial post.
It was clear in your initial post, but I didn't/don't believe it. She sounds like she's angry with herself and blaming you for something you had no control over.
Posted 05-21-2012 at 04:48 AM by Nate

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Be blunt with her, and honest, you don't have to be rude, but confront her, preferably when you two are alone, and talk it out, ask her why she's angry, give your side to the story, open up if the timing is right. We can only give you so much help but it's up to you to execute it. We don't always see eye to eye I think, but I will still safely say that you're very grown up for someone who, if I'm correct, is younger than I am, and girls like a bloke who is honest and forthright. You're also a relatively nice guy from what I can tell, so I don't see what can go wrong if you just talk to her.
Posted 05-21-2012 at 06:06 AM by STM

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I have nothing constructive to say to this. Shoving your dick in her mouth to shut her the fuck up is the only piece of advice I can give.
Posted 05-21-2012 at 07:27 AM by OANST

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That's useful advice, it just won't have many practical applications until later in his life.

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I don't see what can go wrong if you just talk to her.
Again, this is a weakness on your part. I am fully aware that most awkward social interactions are for the best in the long term, but they can go wrong, and when they do the results are often horrendous. It's up to Tom whether he wants to take the risk. I probably would.

Though I'd run like hell as soon as I'd stabilised the situation.
Posted 05-21-2012 at 09:29 AM by MeechMunchie
Updated 05-21-2012 at 09:33 AM by MeechMunchie

STM's Avatar
Who says it has to be awkward? God damn it's just a girl, he's not taking a fucking job interview. What would you suggest could possibly go wrong with Phylum talking this out, oh-so-wise-Sensei?
Posted 05-21-2012 at 10:20 AM by STM

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God damn it's just a girl, he's not taking a fucking job interview.
Someone who has never had a crush.
Posted 05-21-2012 at 12:05 PM by Manco

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I've loved and not had love returned more times than I've been loved, but I have the luxury of experience from both sides; as in I've been ignored but I've also rejected girls, so I understand what it's like for Phylum and the girl he's talking about.

Thing is all my posts sound condescending to him, as if he's incapable of doing this by himself or without my advice, so if you read my comments and think that, Phylum, that's not what I'm trying to do.
Posted 05-21-2012 at 12:20 PM by STM

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Okay. I'm going to offer real advice. If you just lay down, and tell her that you understand why she's mad at you, you will be validating her insane behavior, and she will not respect you. What you need to do is tell her that you thought she was interested, turns out you were wrong, now lets just move on. I promise you that if she is interested at all that amount of interest will double after that.

And don't say it all sweet either. Just be matter of fact about it. As if it doesn't matter one way or the other to you.
Posted 05-21-2012 at 12:30 PM by OANST
Updated 05-21-2012 at 12:36 PM by OANST

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Um... I think it's nothing like that. There just was a point in my life I did things exactly as you/Nate/STM suggested here and it didn't end particulary well. Dunno, maybe I just wasn't lucky.
then you think wrong. just do it and worry about your shadow later.
Posted 05-21-2012 at 07:25 PM by MA

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I had a class with her today and she apologised for overreacting about the whole thing. She's barely even angry with me.

Fucking teenage girls.
Posted 05-21-2012 at 11:34 PM by Phylum

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Fucking teenage girls.
Moving a little too fast there arencha?
Posted 05-21-2012 at 11:49 PM by Manco

MeechMunchie's Avatar
Now, run like hell! Before she tries to bewitch you again!
Posted 05-22-2012 at 12:31 AM by MeechMunchie

T-nex's Avatar
Still Oanst probly gave the best advice.

Lol.. one does not simply talk things out with a girl. It's like a ticking time-bomb. Needs special expertise.


But no really. Us girls never mean what we say. Ive been working on that though.
Posted 05-22-2012 at 02:00 AM by T-nex

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I had a class with her today and she apologised for overreacting about the whole thing. She's barely even angry with me.
Fucking teenage girls.
Gosh that was faster than I expected
Posted 05-22-2012 at 02:01 AM by Varrok

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Well people, we all learnt a valuable lesson today. I'm too high to know what it is though.
Posted 05-22-2012 at 09:33 AM by STM

 

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