I know I’m not supposed to have 2 blog posts in the top 5, but I feel the following blog is so important I have the right to bypass this rule.
Tonight, I unexpectedly I met my dad, I haven’t seen him in 6 years.
First off, bit of background regarding my biological dad.
He took off just before I was born, he used to visit after I was born, but I was very young and barely remember it, all I remember was his car, which was a gorgeous white Ford Escort XR3i.
I didn’t see him at all after I was about 3, then on my 10th birthday, I had a phone call from him, saying he wanted to see me, so at least once a week he used to take me out.
So what did I learn when I saw him again when I was 10?
Well, I had a new brother and sister, Miles who was 1 (I did meet him but he was only a baby at the time) and Sarah who was 3.
This went well for 2 years, until one day him and my mum had a big argument on the phone and I never saw him again, I always wanted to see him, but I felt awkward about it with my mum, about a year ago, I tried to get contact with him, but failed. So how did I come to meet him tonight after 6 years?
Well again, this requires a bit of background.
Those who have me as a friend on Facebook may know that I’m working on a photography project with a friend called “Blackoak University of Nightmares”.
Today, we went on a photoshoot, on the way home, a small group of us were in desperate need of the toilet, so my friend Dee said we could use the toilet in her house, but we had to go in and out because her mum said on the phone that “Your grandparents and Mike are around”.
Well, in the house, her mum shouted, “Dee, lets meet your friends”. We all walked in, I saw him there, thought it looked like him, then when I remember that it must have been this Mike her mum mentioned, I just grabbed Dee’s arm in shock and said, “That’s my dad there”. The room went silent, and everybody looked at us, suddenly I just ran to him gave him a big hug and said “Dad!”
The whole room was in utter shock when we said that we haven’t seen each other in 6 years. Dee then said to me, “Oh my god, I’ve known Mike all my life because him and mum used to be together, in fact, when I first met you, I thought you looked like him, but I thought nothing of it”.
So what was happened in the 6 years we haven’t seen each other?
Well, my dad has been married now for 4 years, I also have 2 new brothers, that are twins and 9 months old, sadly, the one is in Great Ormond Street hospital being tube fed as he cannot swallow. His wife is currently there in the hospital with their child.
Miles who is now 7 sadly was taken into care and now lives with his grandparents as his mother used to beat him.
Sarah is now 11, my dad doesn’t know much about her these days.
One think I asked was how Cyril was, Cyril is my fathers father who we used to regularly visit when we went out, sadly, Cyril passed on 2 years ago of old age which really dragged me down. A funny thing that came up was this old Skoda 125 that Cyril owned, it was a heap of a thing, my mum said that she remembers Cyril had this Skoda when she was with mike (which would have been very early 90’s).
My dads car was in for repairs one day so he had to borrow the Skoda, god what a shed it was, it broke down on us all the time! Apparently though, just before he died, Cyril sold the car to a Skoda enthusiast.
So that was all the news I had to catch up on, I told my dad that I am currently in university, I haven’t told him I’m gay, felt weary about it, but well, there was me, and 3 lesbians and my ex girlfriend who is bisexual, so there was plenty of gay present, he seemed fine with Dee kissing her girlfriend, I felt nervous and didn’t feel ready to tell him, but I feel maybe he knows now, my friend Deena (Dee’s girlfriend) was not exactly subtle in shouting out the names of boys I fancy.
We have each other’s phone numbers now, so we will remain in contact.
UPDATE:
My friend Dee said that when she got back to her house my dad was still there, according to her she "accidentally" told him I'm gay, I'm not convinced it was an accident, anyway, he's perfectly fine with it and was apparently more worried about what my parents thought of it.
He also asked if I currently had a boyfriend and that if I did he would have like to meet him. So all is well and good
