You Were Right

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Your joking

I really truly wish hes joking

I dunno... I just hope for the best. I wish I could help.


Don't hesitate looking for legal info Maybe there's some way around this.

I don't think this is something OANST would joke about.

That sucks, man. *hug*

I'm not sure if this is a joke or not, but I never thought you were a bad person.

If you are serious, I can't see why this would happen. You've always seemed like a really nice guy, and in fact, I'd be lying if I said your recent post on your talk about religion with your daughter didn't influence me to post my last blog.

I think you're a good guy, and I think I might actually be better off for just knowing you.

No. Please, tell me this is not true.

I'm so sorry.

It's almost 3 am. I went to a bar for the first time in almost ten years. tomorrow I start my life without the people I love and i dont know how to do it.

Shit, I knew something was up when I saw a post this late by you.

Pretty much this times 1000. You have always seemed like a genuinely great person to those close to you from what I have seen here and talking to you over Live. You also seemed to be on a path to self improvement, from your weight loss blogs. I'd be lying if our talks about religion and other things on Live haven't influenced me. I honestly don't know what to say to this. Other than I hope this works out, and I can't even comprehend what you must be feeling right now, and that Im extremely sorry to hear this. You'll be in my prayers.

She wasn't happy. She felt like I was holding her back from doing the things that she wanted to do. And maybe I was. It wasn't easy providing a home for us, and it took up a lot of my time. Also, I am completely miserable in my job, and this has caused me to be short with her maybe one too many times. I just sent her a long, pathetic email, professing my undying love, and that I would do anything to have her back, counseling, getting rid of the video games. I don't care. But I know that she is locked into a lease for a year now, and that the soonest I can be with her, if ever, is that long. She wants some time apart, and I'd be willing to bet that within the space of a year she will find someone much more interesting than me. I think I've lost the only woman that I've ever loved, and it's my fucking fault. It's my fucking fault, and I will never know the kind of happiness that I had with her again.

Fuck. I can't stress how sorry I am to hear that.

For what little I'm sure this will count right now, no-one on these forums has ever accused you of not being a good person, of being unattractive or of being stupid. And whatever adjectives people may use to describe you, the positive ones far outweigh the negative ones.

It's always tough to be serious on the internet (and in this forum in particular) but you have all of our best hopes and wishes.

i started crying again when i read that. I am so fucked up right now.

Someone needs to visit OANST and give him a hug

I am very sorry to hear about this. I hope that everything turns out for the best for you.

I can imagine why you are so upset man. I really feel for you, and i'm not just saying that. I know it seems like i just read a sad blog and wanted to say something nice. But that's not it. I actually do feel bad for you, and hope it works out.

You are a good person, what the fuck kind of bad man works 60 hours+ a week to provide for his family? What kind of bad person works at a job that he doesn't like to provide for them?

No, you're good, funny, and you deserve goodness. I can't advise you on a situation i haven't been in myself. But remember not to beat yourself down.

I'm so, so sorry. You're a fantastic dude and I think that from reading just about any of your Daughter Blogs one could tell you deeply care for her and your wife. You're a good person, I don't care what is said otherwise.

this blog was such a shock for me. you love your family more than anything on this planet, man. we can all tell that much. there's not a single person on these forums who thinks you're a bad person, either, and don't you forget it. i know i'm repeating what everyone else has already said, but i just want you to realise it, and remember it.

take care of yourself, mate.

I'm gobsmacked, really and truly and I don't think I can appreciate how fucking difficult this is for you. Even telling us about it, strangers on the internet, must have been hard but I can't help but wonder how worse this must be for the kid. I've been here for a short time but I know that you'd do the anything by her.

Fuck, I'm just rambling now. I suppose I should say good luck and I hope everything works out for you

What the hell?

Of all people, I didn't expect to see this happen to you. Okay, you have flaws, so does everybody, but you are a good person. In bold: You are a good person. I don't live your life, so I can't explain why things happened, but nothing I've ever seen you say has implied that your wife and daughter are any lower than No.1 of the things that are most important to you.

Stay strong. You'll get a chance to fix things.

You are one of the most interesting, funny and intelligent people I know. I hope this ends well for you.

Good luck with everything.

You're one of the best people I've ever met.

Please take care.

I went through breakup the last year under similar circumstances (granted without children involved, so in that regard I can only empathize), but I think this is the truest thing that rings true for any comparable situation:

my sympathies for you my friend.

Like Leto said, similar experience but without a child involved. I guess it's much worse than that.

I'm sorry, I hope you can pull through this.

I finally fell asleep at 1:00 a.m. after having been awake for 40 and a half hours. I then woke up at 5:30 a.m. and couldn't go back to sleep. I haven't eaten anything in the last 50 hours except for a piece of toast. I've spoken to April a few times now, and we have come to a decent understanding, but the understanding is making it even more difficult for me. She says that she still has love for me, but she doesn't know where that love leads, and that she might not want to be through with me. I begged her to tell me if she doesn't love me, and if she doesn't want to be with me just so that I will know. Just so I won't be clinging to false hope. But she says that she doesn't know. She has agreed to let me take her on a date once I get my license, and a car. I'm getting my license today, and I've made some calls about finding a car. I think I've found a decent vehicle for 1000 dollars.

I wanted to know if we could make the relationship exclusive until she's able to make her mind up about me one way or another. This put her off. She said that the idea of dating other people hasn't occurred to her, but that it's a really awkward question for her to answer. She told me that she wants me to have fun, and see other people if I want. That was heart wrenching to me. I only want her. I love her so much, and she has broken my heart, and I probably deserved it, but I wish she would just finish the job. Break my heart completely so that I can begin to heal, or give me the opportunity to show her that our love is stronger than this. I want us to go to couples counseling if, after a few dates, she feels like there is enough there to work on it. But that won't work if she isn't committed to the process. The not knowing is tearing me apart. I don't know where I stand with her and it is fucking killing me.

I'm beginning to understand where much of this is coming from. She feels like being with me has kept her from being her own person. She wants to experience new things, be an adult on her own.

I don't know what to do. I don't know if I can win her back. It's all I want. But I am unable to read the situation with any objectivity.

Hang in there Mat.

We're all thinking of you.

One option remains: Romance the pants off her, again. You love her, a lot, and she'd have to be pretty good actor if she doesn't love you. Every time you talk about your life, it's 'Me and April...', 'April and me...', '...did this together...', '...then we had sex.' Counselling sounds like a great idea, but you want April on board, so make sure she knows how great and important your relatioship is.

You once said that if anyone hurt your family, you wouldn't rest until they'd made amends for their deeds, no matter what the cost to the person or you. You think you've been causing your wife pain? Well, if there's one thing we all know about you, it's that you're sure about your beliefs. Even if it does no good in the long run, you've got a self-imposed responsibility to make these the best bloody nights of both of your lives.

Besides, if there's one thing you need right now it's an enjoyable evening. Don't forget to sleep. Sleep is important. I feel suicidal once that clock hits 02:00.

This is just my perspective, you've probably had all of these ideas a dozen times by now, but fuck it, I care, and coming up with shit ideas is all I can do.

Good luck, and hold on. You've got the passion, you'll make it through this. We're all here for you.

I spoke with her again. We both did a lot crying, and we both had a better understanding of where we went wrong. She's going to give me another chance. She has committed to working through it if it can be worked through. We still won't be living together. They have the place that they are in for a year. But we are going to be working together to repair our relationship, and I am so much happier right now. Losing her was like having the only good part of myself ripped out. I'll be damned if I'm going to lose her again.

My thoughts and prayers certainly go out to you. Whatever happens will happen and it's all about doing whatever is right for you.