The looming shadow of parental divorce

Naturally.
With each passing year of becoming accustomed to a certain lifestyle, the harder it becomes for you to cope with a change. Why do you think most republicans are old farts?

I was lucky in that my parents divorced when I was young. It was a messy, violent divorce though.

I feel for you, mate. Care to give a sitrep?

Great, now he's camping outside our house in his car looking for an opening.

This is a job for the police force tomorrow morning.

I can't go to sleep whilst he's out there, mine is the window that faces the drive and I need to protect my family.

I think I'm going to cry.

Fuck...

Call the beat and have them remove his drunken ass from the premises... now.

I may bitch and moan and curse and hate on my brother a hell of a lot but he's part of my family and no man has the right to come into our house and tell my mother that gives into him way too easily and she should just let him go and live by himself and dig himself a grave.

I never should have let this happen three and a half years ago, I should have stopped him. All men do is come into our house and hurt my mother. I hate men.

Jesus. i hope things are alright now, WoF. i think i can relate to this shit, it isn't nice.

be careful with yourself.

I'm so sorry. I hope that things get better for your family.

Sorry for your situation and all, but until your mother realizes that she's setting herself up for abusive relationships and situations, it won't stop. It's not your job to stop it. I could be misinterpreting, but based on your 'all men do is hurt my mother' statement, I'm assuming she's had a rough go of things. There are no natural born victims. The best way to help her is to be strong, and encourage her to seek therapy and/or counseling. Without either, she will continue the behavior that lead her down this path. Trust me.

Good luck to you and yours.

We're all behind you, WoF. Best of luck to you and your family.

Damn, sorry to hear this. Hope it all goes as well as possible.

Nevermind. I am going to comment. Mainly because I think that you need to hear this.

He absolutely does have the right to tell her that. He and your mother are in an adult relationship, and in an adult relationship men and women will often tell each other true things that are difficult to take. Your brother has been coddled, and from the sound of it he is still being coddled. Until he learns to be self sufficient he will always be a burden on your family and no damn good to even himself.

I'm not trying to upset you, and I'm not trying to be a dick, but it sounds like you and your brother have way too much control over your mother's life. If she was this hurt by him stating what he sees to be the facts as they pertain to your brother, then she needs to grow up and try to understand what it means to share your life with another human being. You won't always agree, and sometimes they will say things that hurt your feelings.

Your insistence that you should have stopped your mother from ever dating him in the first place is extremely disturbing to me. You have to let this poor woman have a life.

What I'm saying is that unless he hit her, I can't comprehend what you people are so upset about. Adults argue.

I know from experience that there is always more to it than meets the eye, even to those most intimately involved. We don't need the details, and there are likely those you don't know. But you do know those of us and of others who you trust. Come talk to us if and when you need us.

Of course, I can't pretend to know all the facts. I only know what you've said so far. My only point is that it's possible to say or do things that could be construed as being hurtful, and still hold onto a great deal of love for the other person. For instance, if I didn't like you I wouldn't have said anything at all. Support doesn't always take the form of just agreeing that something sucks.

I apologize for my emotional outburst, it was quite unseemly.

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