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***Nate*** · #1 08-09-2006, 03:23 AM

So here's the thing; I have a new friend who I've only met once or twice but every time I see him, he reaches in for the kiss-hello. He's a nice guy and I don't want to insult him, but that's just a bit to intimate for me, especially in public.

So anyway; can anyone recommend a way to get him to back off without insulting him?

EDIT: in case it's not obvious, I'm talking about a cheek-kiss here.

Rich · #2 08-09-2006, 03:35 AM

In Communist Russia, Mel Gibson harasses you!

Dusan · #3 08-09-2006, 05:33 AM

Change the sex.
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Just tell him. He'll not gonna be insulted. He have other friends beside you, and i'm sure that you wouldn't be the first one telling him that.

SeaRex · #4 08-09-2006, 05:39 AM

I know what you mean (well... sort of... we don't have the whole "cheek kissy" thing in America). I, for example, really just don't like to be touched. It just bothers me. People are filthy.

However, I don't think it's rude to tell people that flat-out, even if it's like... the first time I've met them or something. Just don't be a dick about it. A simple "Eh! Don't like to be touched!" (or in this case, kissed) in a friendly and humorous matter has always done the trick for me.

Then again, you may have waited to long to take that approach, so meh.

Havoc · #5 08-09-2006, 08:23 AM

Have you concidered just saying it?
What spooks me is the cheek kiss altogether. I usualy don't go around kissing people I have met only twice. Not even if it's a realy hot girl, unless it's my girlfriend

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I do have a second solution to it, but it involves a steel chair and boltcutters.

ANN NEELY · #6 08-09-2006, 10:29 AM

I believe in France it's polite to kiss someone on both cheeks when you meet them.
Be polite about it. Say, "Could you please not do that? I'm not fond of being touched." It works for me with my "friends" who sneak up behind me and squeeze the breath out of me (despite my asthmatic problems).

Havoc · #7 08-09-2006, 12:50 PM

I totaly can not handle anyone touching me when I am not prepared for it. If someone jumps on my back while I'm minding my own bussiness, that person is likely to be knocked out within a minute. I just like, swing my arms in the general direction, usualy with the result of knocking someone in the head

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Same with kisses. I don't mind the three cheek kisses (it's a normal greeting here in same cases as well) if it's with a person I know closely. For instance, I greet my brotehrs girlfriend that way, I greet my sister that way. But I'm not going to cheek kiss anyone I just met for 2 seconds.

Kamille · #8 08-09-2006, 02:02 PM

well I don't know if you don't like it tell him not to do it thats all, I know around here if that happens most people would assume the two guys are gay because everybody is so insecure in their masculinity, I never really had a friend who was that friendly though

Statikk HDM · #9 08-09-2006, 03:13 PM

I think you're the weird one on this, Nate. Try to compromise with a complex series of hand gestures. A good one I like is High Five, Low Five, Finger wiggle. Feel free to replace the wiggle with a chest bump or arm bang. This guy thinks your pretty cool if he's doing this, so chill out.
And those cheek pecks is more action than I've gotten all summer, so quitchyerbitchin'.

***Nate*** · #10 08-09-2006, 04:29 PM

*wonders whether to point out the obvious to Kamille*

Rich · #11 08-10-2006, 12:48 AM

John. Nate, his name is John.

Anyway, I thought you were desperate for this sort of thing to happen to you? Is he ugly or something?

***Nate*** · #12 08-10-2006, 06:30 AM

We're 'just' friends. And I'm not planning on any more with this particular individual, thankyou very much.

***Wil*** · #13 08-10-2006, 09:13 AM

Mr Picky.

Don't hide your distaste of it. Squirm. Look fearful when you see him. If he comes too close, run away. Fear is always your best chance of survival. If you really want to be aggressive, just ask him nicely.

That's how I got that nice pickpocket, who was only doing his job, to stop sneaking (conspicuously) up behind me.

Jacob · #14 08-10-2006, 11:18 AM

I've never really had a problem when it comes to people touching me...well, apart from that time at my sixth birthday party. ...i have no idea what my Dad was thinking. ...but meh.

Erm...yeh, i don't know how to tackle this issue, really. Maybe just say to him "Easy Tiger!" ...or something equally comic-bookish.

***Nate*** · #15 08-10-2006, 05:37 PM

Perhaps wearing my underpants on the outside would help also...

Kamille · #16 08-10-2006, 06:08 PM

muderize him

Havoc · #17 08-11-2006, 12:04 AM

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Maybe just say to him "Easy Tiger!"

But I didn't do anything! I swear!

Hops · #18 08-15-2006, 01:09 PM

these buttons may help you.

used:) · #19 08-15-2006, 02:20 PM

Friendship is about good and bad things. Just take it like the hardcore aussie that lives deep inside of you somewhere.

Besides, it's only a kiss.

Abe 01 · #20 08-19-2006, 03:15 AM

Eat lots of garlic so he dosnt like the smell or stop brushing your teeth

Mutual Friend · #21 08-19-2006, 03:48 AM

Why not just shove him really hard so he falls over?

Then he will fear you like the monster you are.