Threesome

I was invited to one too. Same setup.

I couldn't tell if they were serious. Not like that would have made the biggest of differences; I didn't know the guy very well and the girl even less. I politely declined.

Not sure that was the right decision, but I find it hard to imagine myself saying yes. Similar thing applies here, but if you go for it, I'm sure it'll be an experience unlike most others.

In vaguely related news, I'm going on a more traditional date with a more traditional woman in a couple of weeks so woop woop playa~

God will burn thy flesh in hell lol @ the sinner

If it were me. I'd decline. Not because I too am still a virgin, just the fact I don't like the idea of one. I'm not too comfortable with the idea in all honestly.

They are very overrated. Didn't enjoy my experience that much, and they aren't like you really expect them to be. I'll leave the details at that.

At least in porn there's a director on hand to make it work. You may have to work out the logistics in advance. But that's okay, I've heard that logistical planning is an aphrodisiac.

I sure wouldn't wanna lose my virginity that way, but maybe I'm just a sad, sappy sucker.

I have a feeling this would be awkward as fuck, too, so yeah. I'd say pass.

unless of course there was booze involved

If your virginity is really really irritating you perhaps it would help it taking that weight off your shoulders? Do they know you're a virgin? It might be strange trying to figure your way around your first sexual experience yet trying to service the threesome...

Do whatever you actually feel comfortable with, tbh.

Maybe I’m a little old-school but is having a threesome shortly before going on a date with another girl a good idea?

Don't lose your virginity in a M/M/F threesome. M/F/F is a different story.

Also why did they even invite you? I'd be wary of being randomly invited to any threesome with a girl I've never had sex with before. STD galore.

I'd just like to remind everyone that I'm bi so this is like a two-birds-one-stone kind of thing. I <3 dicks

They're a casual couple (friends with benefits) I've known half of for a little while and basically the (sweet & attractive) girl called me up to say that they'd always wanted to try one (the dude is also bi) but they couldn't find someone they both liked enough. Apparently they both found me highly appealing (which I think is worthy of celebration in itself) and that, if I was willing, their search might be over. I told her I was a virgin, she said that was fine, so I told her to give me a bit of time to think about it. She said that even if I declined the menage a trois, she was still totally down to fuck duo, which rather made my day.

One blog, one chat with a worldly friend and one intense discussion with Phylum later, I was actually fairly pumped for it. Nothing's ever perfect, it'd be nice to do my fumbling about with a little backup for when I do inevitably get something wrong, the people are completely detached from the rest of my life and therefore whatever happens won't impact my daily life, and this would at least make for an entertaining story, and that's all our experiences are really worth at the end of the day. I got back in touch to ask for the dude's number so I could see what he was like before I committed to anything and...

*Poof*

No texts/IM/email/whatever. Unfriended, disconnected, total blackout.

I can only assume a) She construed something awful from what I said to her b) She got cold feet and didn't know how to decline c) There was some kind of technical issue with her phone or d) She found a better-looking bi guy and gave me the virtual middle finger.

None of these seem particularly probable, considering she was rather more onboard with the entire affair than I was, and is generally a really sweet and caring person.

People are fucking weird.

Life is fucking weird.

STILL ENTERTAINING STORY THO

No-one's in a relationship, ergo, not cheating.

First dates are the "audition". If it ends well, then you're in a relationship.

Back in the old days, marriage was the start of a relationship.

Fuck the old days.

do whatever you feel comfortable with. you never know, they might get back in touch.

lucky motherfucker.

I enjoyed it, anyway.

Yes, I’m sure she would be totally rational and level-headed about the whole “sleeping with people while knowingly having a date planned already” thing.

Wait you're bi? Jfc this forum is infested with LGBT!!

Personally I'd go for it because yolo swag, life's too short etc. I imagine MMF threesomes to be pretty damn rare (correct me if I'm wrong) so as long as everyone liked each other why not? Seems like a unique experience.

It sucks that they've stopped communicating though. Perhaps they will pluck up the courage to reply to you about it in the weeks coming up to your date.

I would be. I'm not sure what part of "not in a relationship" is so confusing to you. You're not monogamous out of respect to potential future commitments, that's absurd. It's like saying you should never bang anyone ever because at some point in the future you might get married.

It's a moot point now, anyway, so calm your briskets.

To expand on MeechMunchie's point: No-one in any relationship has any right of assumption over the other party(/ies) until they've sat down and had the exclusivity conversation. Sometimes that'll happen on the first date, sometimes it might be weeks down the line. But you can't say that the other person shouldn't spend sexytimes with anyone else until that conversation occurs.


The last time I had that conversation, it turned in to a Ritualised and Coordinated Uninstallation of Grindr.

You're a virgin... I've known guys in their teens who'd fuck anything with a heartbeat before their first sexual experience and made a quick turnaround to being straight once they got laid a few times. Don't confuse just wanting to fuck something, with an actual sexual orientation. And for the same reason, don't just fuck something to lose your virginity.

Not saying you absolutely have to lose it with someone you love, but at the very least someone who cares about you for more than your wiener.

FYI, Havoc, bi-denial is common and frustrating.

I'm not denying it exists, I'm just saying that some people confuse their sexual frustration for sexual orientation.

From the man who legitimately wants to fuck a tiger.

That being a perfect example of my point. My interest in that sort of stuff has significantly lessened since my teenage years, though still very fascinating.

Havoc once again demonstrates that he has no worthwhile opinion on anything.

And I've been bi pretty much since I was kid (in retrospect), so kindly GFY cheers

I dunno, Havoc. Same-sex attraction is probably less of a strange by-product of sexual frustration than a tiger orientated zoophilia.

Maybe. All I'm saying is that you probably should have a stable sex life before being able to say with any degree of certainty what you like.

That was a pretty prickish comment to make Havoc. Tactless.

> Thinks I should work out what kind of sex I like

> Discourages me from having sex

I think his emphasis was on the word 'stable'.

Sex has the capacity to ruin everything, which is why I usually stress that unless you are a. Never going to see this person again, or b. actually interested in being in a romantic relationship with the person, that you not bother with it. It ruins friendships, makes things awkward, and hurts feelings. And never, ever, ever cheat, or ask your significant other to be involved, or allow you to be involved with another person. It's only sex. Sex is wonderful, and amazing, and holy shit does exploding inside of another human being feel great, but ultimately, trust, friendship, and true intimacy are far more rewarding. At least, that's how I feel about it.